When You’re Both Frustrated: What Happens Next Matters Most

Ever felt like you're the only one trying to hold it together—while everything around you feels like it’s falling apart?

Whether you're a parent, therapist, or educator, those moments when both you and the child you're supporting feel overwhelmed can leave you stuck, second-guessing, and drained. But what if those very moments could become your biggest opportunities for connection?

How to recognize when both people are dysregulated—and what you can do together to shift from frustration to calm. Susan Golubock and I share real-life examples, practical co-regulation tools, and an honest conversation about the times we’ve gotten it right... and the times we haven’t.

You’ll learn:

• Why hiding your frustration doesn’t help (and what to do instead)

• How to use the phrase “Uh-oh, we have a problem” as a powerful reset

• Ways to co-regulate without abandoning your own emotions

• The value of preparing a shared calming plan before things escalate

If you've ever wondered, "How do I stay calm when I feel anything but?"—this is for you.

👉 Watch the full video now and grab our free Balanced Arousal Form to help you and your child or client find what truly calms you—together.