I Statements Help Me Speak My Truth—Without Hurting Yours

Have you ever been told you're too blunt or too honest? Maybe you've said something with the best of intentions—just to share your thoughts—and someone responded like you'd insulted them.

If that’s happened to you, you’re not alone.

In this week’s conversation, Susan is talking about something that can help: I statements.

Most of the world expects you to soften your words, wrap your truths in politeness, and sometimes even lie to keep things “comfortable.” But for many of us—especially those of us who are autistic—that kind of communication can feel confusing, exhausting, or just plain inauthentic.

So what can we do when we want to be honest and respectful?

That’s what Susan (an autistic Occupational Therapist) and I (Staci, a neurodivergent Speech-Language Pathologist) dive into in this week’s video.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why "you" statements often feel like blame or judgment

• How "I" statements can help you express your truth without being misunderstood

• Why many autistics prefer honest feedback—as long as it's not wrapped in blame

• The impact of promises that aren’t followed through on (“Let’s do lunch!” vs. “I’d like to plan lunch—can I get back to you?”)

  
  

Whether you're navigating friendships, family, work, or your own advocacy, learning to frame communication around your own perspective (instead of assumptions about the other person) might help people hear you more clearly.

🎯 Because the goal isn’t to hide your truth. It’s to help others understand it.

And here’s the best part: “I statements” still let you be fully you. They just shift the focus—so your words feel less like judgment and more like connection.

🎥 Watch the full video here to hear Susan's personal examples and tips: