Not All Behavior Is Asking for Help

Here’s How to Tell the Difference...

Have you ever watched an autistic student start stimming, leave the room without asking, or throw something across the classroom—and immediately felt the pressure to do something?

You’re not alone. Most of us were taught to react to behaviors quickly: correct it, redirect it, discipline it. But what if some behaviors aren't asking for help at all?

This week, Susan and I dive into a powerful shift in perspective: learning to recognize when a behavior is socially driven (a call for your help or attention), internally driven (a self-regulation or coping strategy), or triggered (a reactive response from overwhelm or past experiences).

👉 When you respond to all behavior the same way, you risk interfering with a person’s ability to meet their own needs.

👉 But when you take a moment to observe, get curious, and ask the right questions—you build safety, trust, and connection.

🎥 Whether you're a teacher, therapist, parent, or autistic individual wanting to learn more about yourself, this episode will change how you see, understand, and respond to behavior. Watch now and learn how to shift from reacting to truly supporting.