Compliance Doesn’t Build Connection—But This Does

How do you feel when someone dangles a reward in front of you—promising praise, a treat, or a break—if you just do the hard thing they’re asking?

Do you feel motivated? Or do you feel pressure, anxiety, or even shame if you can’t do it fast enough… or at all?

Now imagine someone instead saying:

"This might be hard. How can I help you through it?"

Instantly, the energy changes. Instead of feeling like a task to complete or a problem to fix, you feel like a human being—seen, supported, and connected to.

That’s the difference between compliance and relationship-based support. And in our latest video, Susan Golubock and I talk about exactly that.

👇 In this episode, we unpack:

• Why traditional behavior strategies break down trust

• How unmet needs show up as “noncompliance”

• A powerful real-life example of a parent supporting her autistic son through an overwhelming airport experience

• How just a few words can shift a moment of stress into an opportunity for connection

  
  

💬 If you’ve ever felt that behavior plans were missing something… they are. They’re missing the relationship.

👉 Watch the video to hear how we can build trust through communication, not control.